Next to me is a cup of coffee that will always bring comfort to me, especially in these cold times but also in times my mind is restless. It’s currently snowing outside and I stayed home instead of going to college so I thought I’ll sit down and share a letter I wrote with you guys.
It’s all a bit messy but I kind of want certain people to read this so here.
To the boys, to the Men, to the hurt out there, whose experiencing (their first) heart break,
This is no quiet affair my dear one. It will tear you apart and make you feel like there is no tomorrow. It’s refreshing really because till now I’ve only experienced women coming to talk to me about heartbreak and I won’t deny that I was taken a back at first. It just suddenly hit me how men can feel such deeply too. I mean I knew that but I had never seen it before so I guess I didn’t really think about it, it was just a passing thought. I had come to the conclusion that men weren’t capable of feeling due to my bad experiences. Due to the few bad ones out there I had lost my faith in men. Then I started to think about how stupid I was for hating on all men just because of the few that had hurt me. I should never have generalised like that. So I want to say thank you, to you before I continue for restoring my faith in men. (you know who you are, that is if you ever read this because you’re not a fan of reading)
Your heart breaks so new light can get in, making you so desperate and out of control that you have to change your life. And you do.
Unrequited love sucks, I know, but you deserve someone who gives as much as you do. Hence staying with her isn’t going to make you happy again. It won’t be the same, who knows maybe this parting now is God giving you both time to grow on your own so that in the future you two will find each other again. That doesn’t mean you should hold onto that hope, live your life. Take time off from her till you are able to look her in the eye and not feel anything.
Most importantly though, surround yourself with friends or hobbies that keep you happy for the time being. Honestly just be happy and I know it’s easier said than done but try, persevere and in your journey of letting go remember that it’s okay to fall occasionally as long as you get yourself back up.
written with love,
P.S this is a generalised version of a personal letter that I wrote to someone who I’ve now some how became close with, so I’m sorry if some of this makes no sense.
P.SS If this so called storm is going to hit I hope you all stay warm and indoors 🙂